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Comment on But what if? by Tamera

Tamera — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:08:16 +0000

Screw the masses! Ahhhh. The tyranny of the majority. *yuck*.

Comment on Energy and emotion by Tamera

Tamera — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:06:59 +0000

I’m an empath, and it can be exhausting sometimes. However, I use a lot of time in organizing experiences, so that I don’t allow myself to be drained. It’s not always easy to separate one’s own from that of others.

Comment on What about the other person? by Tamera

Tamera — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 13:04:01 +0000

I so understand!!!!!! Wow! I went through this as well many years ago, and I felt ’silly and unappreciative’ at the time. It is so great to read that others experience the same feelings as well. Please, don’t laugh…..but, when I was pregnant with my first at the age of 21, I actually ended up in tears!!! Grandparents had bought in EVERYTHING!! I was so disappointed, b/c there was not use for me to go buy double of everything. Like you wrote, the joy was ‘taken’.

However. One wise woman told me to go out and buy our baby exactly what I wanted. When I asked how I was to handle everything that had been given, she just told me to pack it all up, and store it away, without guilt. I did exactly that (with a little guilt). When I asked my Mother in a nice way to not buy so much, she threw a disappointment-fit…..but, you know, it almost couldn’t be avoided. It’s just one of those things. She eventually got over it….about 2 years later..lol. Better late than never, right?

Comment on The definition of irony? Probably not but…. by Mrs T

Mrs T — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 05:59:48 +0000

Ah, Mr Brown would say it was The Party that was elected not Mr Blair! But we all know that’s not true; the majority of people vote on personalities not policies. I strongly suspect Mr Brown will be out at the next election - us Brits have a thing about traitors eh? And it does seem that whatever the agreement between Blair and Brown, Brown’s camp have acted with some dishonour. Hesletine got his comeuppance too and most probably the Tories would not have got back in had they not kicked him into touch and elected the bland but honest looking Major. (Mind you, I’ve read Edwina Currie’s Diaries and Major wasn’t quite so “grey” as we all thought!

Comment on But what if? by Divine Insanity

Divine Insanity — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 20:18:30 +0000

Perception is reality. However you perceive it is what makes it real to you.

Comment on What about the other person? by Sy

Sy — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 18:50:24 +0000

@VS - Yup, it is highly likely that othes before got the same some their peers, but that is the issue. Did they wish they wouldnt? Chances are yes. People find that because it happened to them, they have the right. But they dont is the thing. When a friend has an issue where I believe I can honestly help, I will tell them that I lived the same experience, and if they want any advice or comments, then just ask. I wont volunteer the information. I think this issue in hand has wound me and my wife up more because we dont offer out advice, so find it aggravating when it happens. Fortunately, on the gift side of things, the hints have been well and truly received and it seems to be more in order…for now!!!

@HGM - Unsolicited advice seems to be everyone’s forte in life! I agree completely that it is patronising! Some people take a while to understand that the advice they are pounding out is just not wanted. I have through this one experience (of course, this is a huge experience!) found that sometimes you need to hurt others to allow what should be a very happy time in my life to continue to be happy.
Through all of this, I am getting to the point where the ones who dont get the hint will find me walking in to their house and telling them why all the things in there need to change, and do it “like this as it is the best way”. I cannot see anyone accepting this, so how nice it would be for them to see that the advice on my child is also not so wanted!

Wow, we got some great comments on this post! I wrote it as a “get it off of my chest”, and thank you for your amazing, really thought out comments.

Comment on What about the other person? by hillgrandmom

hillgrandmom — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 17:09:39 +0000

Well, where babies are concerned, yes the world and it’s neighbour always has advice. But I was thinking of your line ‘But they got there on their own by finding out by either living the experience, or asking for that advice. ‘ I fell that not just about babies, but about life in general, it’s unsolicited advice, or help for that matter, which is really difficult to deal with. These givers of advice/help do not realise that, in effect, they are being patronising and therefore saying that the those at the receiving end are in some way ‘less’ than them. The problem is, advice can easily be rejected, but unsolicited help is so difficult to reject without bad feelings all round.
Sorry this has been a rant. All the best to you and wife.

Comment on But what if? by Sy

Sy — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:58:24 +0000

Normal is unfortunately decided by the masses, which is why as soon as someone decides to not follow “the masses”, they get labelled a freak or different or somehting like that.

But yup, live as you live and screw the rest. If you are happy, that is all it is about.

Comment on But what if? by Susan from UK web developers

Susan from UK web developers — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 11:52:22 +0000

I agree… The word normal is too subjective… I am from time to time on a chat and they write there: is here a normal girl? and I say, define the word normal. As I say, nobody is normal. There is even no such thing as normal human. I mean normal in general, when everybody agrees, that that person is normal.
And to that reality… Did you saw the film matrix (if not, it would be not “normal” :-)) There are questionising the reality too… You never know what the truth is. Somehow I’m OK with it now. I just try to live the life as good as I can. No mater if we live in a pc program, or in a dream. Most of us will not know the truth till the end of our life…

Comment on Energy and emotion by Sy

Sy — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 18:44:53 +0000

Laughing in films? They do that? Geez, I gotta start watching the right films!!

There is that issue of how often do you laugh out loud when watching the same film when in the house alone. There are certain things I will laugh out loud at. Family Guy and Futurama (ok, tv shows, not movies) have the ability to make me laugh out loud on my own, but watching them with friends does bring a lot more to anything you are watching. The energy created by having several people laughing at once an make something a compeltely different experience.